I would definitely encourage you to try this alternative route. Playing by mail isn't the same as face to face but does have a lot of benefits.
I found a module of SPQR. I think this is VASSAL [usually I prefer Cyberboard,…"
"Hi James, have you ever played these games by mail? with cyberboard?
It works very well. no cat (kids) running and moving pieces, much faster to set up, you play only when you have a moment .
Well I'm British but I live in Ireland [Cork].