Here in Italy women are considered as the natural opponent vs. wargamers. Female partners and wives are strong units, (their most feared weapons are vacuum cleaners), who tend to hinder male playing moments often groaning, grumbling and complaining more than what's normally due ...
How is the worldwide situation ? Is there any gamer who had the luck to find some female gamers ?


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Comment by Smitty on March 27, 2009 at 4:17pm
I married one who more than just tolerates it :)
Comment by Bruce Rogers on March 21, 2008 at 2:26am
My wife has gamed with me a few times. Mostly she is just very supportive of my hobby, including having my wargaming buddies around the house until all hours.
Comment by Kai Jensen on March 19, 2008 at 11:01pm
Cool quote, too. But I "swim in the large ocean" with my partner in gaming, so no fear. We both consider ourselves lucky to have hooked up with another gamer, so it's win-win for us. ;0)
Comment by Kai Jensen on March 19, 2008 at 10:59pm
Hi, Enrico. No, I'm not lone. There are at least half a dozen female wargamers at the ConsimWorld Expo mixing it up with the guys every year. And I met Denny here recently. From her pics, she's more hardcore than I am!

For the Ariete in Totensonntag - I wasn't trying to diss them. I let myself get too tied up with them and lost a LOT of time. I think moving more of my forces past them and leaving a smaller contingent to deal with them is more the key. They are definitely a thorn in the side, as they are intended to be, I believe. But I wasted too much effort and am looking to improve my performance next time I play the Allies.
Comment by enrico acerbi on March 19, 2008 at 6:01pm
Hi Kai,
the lone wargameress ? Here we say the most precious jewels are "rari nantes in gurgite vasto" (latin for swimming alone in a large ocean).
I am a Totensonntag fan too .. but don't snob the Ariete. Moving one hex per phase they can do some damage ;-)
Comment by Kai Jensen on March 19, 2008 at 1:51pm
I'll second what Denny said.
Comment by Andreas Ludwig on March 19, 2008 at 8:49am
Well, I'm one of those lucky guys who do have a significant other who is as dedicated to The Hobby as I am and I'm strongly aware that I couldn't live this hobby the way I do without her. I once had a partner who was opposed to games and movies about topics that have something to do with 'war' and combat. She usually started an annoying moral debate when I played a game or watched a movie and that was a real turn off. (I remember the night in the cinema when she turned Braveheart into an embarassing situation for me because any combat scene was commented by her ('do we need such movies?') and she used to hide her face behind her hands while groaning loudly when the combat started...go figure).

Woman seem to be a minority in gaming in general and that's true even more for games that include combat action/shooting or war themes, simply because most women don't enjoy that. As we have woman in the military though there are always exceptions to the rule, but they will always be exceptions I suppose and that also goes for wargames. But if women are interested in the topic I think then 'the force is strong in them' because woman seem to have a natural strategic thinking that can make them good players.

The video game industry is obviously interested in activating this large part of the population that doesn't have this natural drive to games as males do. Nintendo tries to bring them into the gaming community via their 'casual games' on the Wii and Ubisoft actually supports a group of female gamers called the Frag Dolls. Wanna see a nice looking girl shouting 'World War 3!!!'? Go here:

Anyway, if you can find a woman who is not only willing to be your partner in life but also interested in being your gaming buddy then take care of her because that's something like heaven on earth imho ;-)
Comment by enrico acerbi on March 19, 2008 at 8:04am
Gut Denny ... hände hoch !! I am very surprised by this.
Comment by Denny Koch on March 19, 2008 at 8:01am
Enrico, you may be surprised, but there are some genuine female hardcore wargamers out there in the vast consim universe - just check out the Consimworld Social Network (i.e. this place) and you will discover that female wargamers are not a rare species :) Some of them even were lucky to find partners who also love wargames and who don't fret at panzer pushing women ;)
Comment by Dav Vandenbroucke on March 19, 2008 at 7:44am
"their most feared weapons are vacuum cleaners"

You know, that kind of comment is part of the problem. Men have as much responsibility to clean up what they make dirty as women do. A man who isn't handy with a vacuum cleaner hardly qualifies as a grownup. We marry adult human beings, not new mommies (at least not for ourselves).

Getting back to your question though, in the USA it's true that there are few women wargamers. I can think of one who posts regularly on There used to be a second one, but she seems to have disappeared. It's mostly socialization. War is still seen as a male pursuit, by and large. Competitive activities are also seen as male. So women don't see what the point is. Women who are attracted to the imaginative side of gaming are more likely to go into role playing, where the play is more cooperative.

All of those statements are generalizations and are slowly changing, but it remains to be seen whether board wargaming will last long enough for it to see an influx of women gamers.

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